At
about 8 o’clock this morning, my wife and I were trying to figure out what to
do about cigarettes. We usually make our own, but this morning, there were
about a dozen tubes left. That means, of course, that I’m going to have to go
to Rite Aid™ later and get a box. Not really a big deal, the store is a few
blocks away, and an easy walk, but still a bit of a pain in the ass, because I
have work I have to get done today. I’m going to be chained to the computer
most of the day. I have deadlines to meet. So what’s our solution? She decided
to send me to the corner store to tap the ATM for a couple bucks, grab a
transitional pack of smokes in the meantime with a coupon, and withdraw a
couple bucks to go get tubes later when I get the chance. It’s a good plan. Hell,
I might as well take out a few more so I can begrudgingly go up to the Chop
Shop on South Street and get my hair cut. I hate getting my hair cut, but part
of being married means giving over aesthetic control to your wife. It’s a pain
in the ass, but it has to be done, or there will be a nonsensical argument, and
probably some name calling. So, off to the corner store I go.
I tap
the ATM, intending to take out 30 bucks, but the damned pain in the ass thing
only dispenses twenties. 20 won’t cut it for what I need today, and 40 might
earn me a free dirty look from the Mrs. Solution? Take out 40, give 10 to my
wife. I’d like her to eat later, too. I go up to the counter with my coupon and
some cash, and wait. Why am I waiting? The shopkeeper hasn’t noticed me yet. He’s
busy preparing stacks of lotto paperwork. He’s 3 feet away. He still doesn’t
see me. I’m the only one in the store. My wife has to go to work. He still hasn’t
seen me. I’m getting annoyed. I clear my throat, and he still hasn’t looked at
me. I come to this store at least once a day, what the fuck? Come on, dude! He’s
still playing with those damn lotto tickets.
As I’m
waiting, and bitching in my head, a man walks in. He’s dirty; obviously
homeless. His dog tags make less of a clink and more of a muted clunk, because
they’re caked with who knows what. I hope he doesn’t come too close. I don’t do
too well with people in general, and my experience in this city with the
homeless has jaded me, even though I was one once. They aren’t like I was. A
lot of them stay on the streets because they want to. They call themselves “train
kids.” They go from city to city panhandling enough to get liquored up until they’re
bored, and move on to the next city via train (this I know, because I had a
conversation with a group of them before they demanded that I move on because,
and I quote, they were “working”).
The
disheveled veteran (I assume he’s a veteran, because who else in their mid-forties
/ fifties walks around wearing dog tags) shuffles into the store. The door is
propped open, because it’s already a beautiful day. As he ambles in, something
halts him. It’s the wire coming from his prosthetic arm. He has one of those
old-fashioned steel and plastic harness-type hooks instead of a left arm, and
one of the cables caught the edge of the door. Now I feel bad. I’m bitching
about stupid, mundane, everyday bullshit, and this guy went and left his left
arm somewhere halfway across the world to protect my privilege to do so. I
catch myself hanging my head in shame, and no one knows why but me. I watch him
turn around. I’m assuming he’s going to unhook himself, for which I’m glad,
because watching this pains me. He doesn’t unhook himself.
Why?
He
doesn’t have a right arm, either.
Fuck.
Not even a hook.
I want to show him some sort of
respect, but how?
Somehow, I don’t think a salute is
appropriate.
He does a 360, and unhooks himself
flawlessly.
He’s done this before.
Many times.
As I walk by, all I can think to do
is smile, tip my hat, and whisper “thank you.”
I can barely get it out.
I will never forget this morning,
and I won’t be complaining about too much today.
I think you need to give up the addiction of trying to get cancer. It costs money you probably could use on better things and it is, in your own words, a pain in the ass. Seriously, forcing dirt down your lungs isn't the smartest thing you can be doing with your time.
ReplyDeleteInteresting point to take away from that post. I'm not saying smoking is a brilliant idea (full disclosure: I smoke as well), but people do plenty of other things that lack intelligently thought out motives while simultaneously being a pain in the ass. Take cars, for example. Paying for gas and saving money/spending time to repair them is a pain in the ass. At the same time, using cars as transportation pumps massive amounts of pollution into the air you breathe (full disclosure: I don't own a car, and I walk more in a week than most individuals will walk in a year. Also, technically it was the walk itself -- and only because of time constraints -- that was listed as the pain in the ass. Now THAT statement lacks prior intelligent thought. It is not walking which pains the posterior, rather it is activities like being chained to one's computer while writing all day. I have some insight into that particular malady because, even as I type, my ass is in serious pain. Of course, it's possible I am attacking extended sitting and typing for a condition that is better blamed on my lover. Okay, so not writing ALL day. ;)
ReplyDeleteAnyway: Having previously spent part of my life with a rather musically unfortunate portion of Metallica's Black album as my theme song, I was pretty pissed off while reading a good amount of this post. By the end, however, I deeply enjoyed it and I applaud you for having the gumption make the points that you did.
Another bit of food for thought: If there was no bad habit being maintained, a trip would not have been as urgent, and that beautiful experience might never even have happened. :) Ain't life grand?
I do disagree that being married necessarily means giving over aesthetic control. While I am currently growing my hair long to indulge in my lover's Morticia fet- ,uh, fixation, I am by no means obligated (nor subliminally suggested) to do so. In fact, I am not even appeasing him for the sake of love -- merely for the sake of sympathy.However, when I decided to shave my head a few months ago, (not something he was fond of) neither he nor my husband attempted to deny me that right. Actually, my husband is the one who shaved it for me -- with one of their razors... that neither of them ever uses.
Since most outsiders looking in allegedly claim that I am "the wife" in our relationship, I'll also cover my opinion from the perspective you initially stated:
My husband and my lover are a couple of talented, creative, smart-assed, guitar-wielding, REAL Men In Black (Will Smith doesn't even have the balls to bite me, but if Rip Torn is DTF...).
Since I have given serious thought to formulating a hypothesis stating that black boots and long coats are a requirement for the continuing functionality of human sexual selection; I, personally, tend to prefer that my gods of sex, (metaphorical) drugs, and rock 'n' roll look like, well -- sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll. So I'm glad they've both got long hair, beards, general scruffiness, and look a little shaggy.
HOWEVER: If either (or both) of them ever decides to shave, cut their hair, get a bleach job, and dress in polo shirts and khaki pants, I will fully support them. Furthermore, in that event, I won't even be able to accuse them of the onset of madness -- since both have proudly proclaimed their insanity for years.